So you told your partner that you want to do Hypnobirthing and they looked at you with a confused look of shock and fear. Were they pretty quick to suggest it isn’t necessary? Without any idea what Hypnobirthing is?
The main question I get asked from mums is booking a Hypnobirthing class is ‘does my partner come?’, which is typically followed by the explanation that they aren’t very keen to attend anyway. It’s normal to feel frustrated and disheartened by their partners lack of interest. You’ve carried their baby for months and just want your partner to attend a two-day class to learn how to support you on the most important day of your pregnancy – the birth!
Truth be told, most birth partners attending the class start the day the same way, acting as if they have been dragged kicking and screaming! Over the years I have been teaching hypnobirthing, getting the partners engaged in the class has become one of my favourite parts of the program. Regardless of how sceptical they are, I always see the ‘lightbulb moment’ when they suddenly realise how important their role is in helping bring THEIR baby into the world.
I place a big emphasis on their role, as a calm, confident and knowledgeable birth partner, they can make ALL the difference to your birthing experience. It is likely that you will reach a point that you start to doubt your ability and turn to them for strength and guidance. You want them to be your voice of reason, that tells you that you can do it, you are doing it and you’re FREAKIN amazing!
Your birth partner needs to understand the birthing process just as much as you do, they need to know what to expect, how to provide better support if interventions are needing to be discussed during labour. It’s helpful to understand the benefits and risks of common interventions so together you can discuss what is best for mother and baby in a calm way. This in depth class, will give you and your birth partner the skills you need to make informed choices about your birth.
Attending hypnobirthing classes with your partner will also allow you and your partner to take some much-needed time out to prepare yourselves and to reconnect before your family grows. Life is busy preparing for a new addition and it is easy to get caught up in every day life. Partners really do want to support you, but often have no idea how to do that during labour, as this is all new to them too.
Your birth partner can actively assist by keeping your birth space calm and relaxed which can help maintain the flow of oxytocin. I will teach you massage, acupressure, breathing, rebozzo and important positions for labour. It is important to practice the techniques regularly at home, so that your partner feels confident supporting you on your birthing day.
Your birth partner will feel educated and empowered because they’ve been so involved in the process. What could be better than having your birth partner there by your side for one of the most amazing, transformative experiences of your life?
Hypnobirthing may seem like another unnecessary expense?
I know what you may be thinking, are hypnobirthing classes worth the money, with all the things you need to buy and prepare for when you’re about to give birth. Hypnobirthing may seem like another unnecessary expense on top of the pram, the carrier, cot and swing.
Yes, the baby will need all of these things once they are here, but when it comes to birthing this beautiful human into the world – what do you need?
How important is a positive birth experience to you and your baby?
As you’re preparing for the big day you may attend the free antenatal classes at the hospital, which will provide you with options on pain relief, have an overview of potential instruments that might be used for intervention, how to swaddle your baby and a tour of the hospital. However, if you are hoping for a natural birth, they do not provide you with skills to help you prepare for natural labour.
Preparing for labour is like preparing for a marathon, you are pushing your body to a place it has never been before. You can watch all the videos, Netflix series and read all the books but nothing will prepare you for giving birth naturally more than an in- person Hypnobirthing class.
If you wanted to run a marathon you wouldn’t just decide to turn up at the start line on the day, it takes months of preparation. Training your body to push further, learning to maintain your breath through the race, stretching daily and having massages to keep your body in optimal fitness. Most of all, train your mind to believe that you can do it, and push past the mental blocks. Having a coach to support you on the side lines, someone who has run the same race and wants to see you succeed would offer the boost of confidence you need.
Birth is often a once in a life time event, immersing yourself in a group class practicing proven techniques, watching positive birth videos and having lots of laughs with other likeminded parents is designed to help you prepare physically, mentally and emotionally for one of the most important days of your life.
Not only will you be able to learn lots of natural techniques in depth, you will have ongoing support from a trained hypnobirthing practitioner that encourages you until you reach the finish line. You will be able to ask questions and get answers from an experienced Hypnobirthing Practitioner who understands just what the female body is capable of. You will also have the chance to connect with other mothers and birth partners who are planning a Hypnobirth. Surround yourself with others who are seeking the same type of birth as you and begin to grow your own mum tribe for continued support after the birth.
You may also be thinking – what if natural birthing isn’t possible? Did you know that you can still use all your hypnobirthing skills!
In fact, the skills you will learn to support you in staying calm and relaxed are more than ever, a calm mum, equals a calm baby. You will also learn how to make informed choices about birth and possible interventions. I want you to walk out feeling confident in navigating any type of birth.
If you can look back on your birth and know that you did your absolute best with the situation you had, you can feel positive about your birth experience.
So is hypnobirthing worth the money? If a positive birthing experience is important to you, the value of what you’re about to learn to bring this healthy baby into the world in calm and nurturing environment, will be priceless.